Wednesday, July 31, 2013

July was pretty cool

It's July 31st, and I feel the need to re-cap. For starters I should go back a few weeks. One of my elementary school friends sadly passed away at the age of 32 from a heart attack. He was not really out of shape, and I didn't believe to be super unhealthy...no more than me, but it was discovered later that his artery was 90% clogged. My heart goes out to his family as my parents are close with them. The experience put me in a bit of a shell shock for a good couple of weeks, and was not able to write out my thoughts. I had no idea that someone so young and averagely healthy could die of a heart attack and after some unbearable anxiety decided to have my heart checked. It turns out that I am okay, but it reminded me to appreciate life and those around you. It is also a good idea to have a doctor's checkup even if you are young and active.

On a lighter note I turned 32 this month, and Caylee turned 6!
To celebrate she got her ears pierced. It hurt, and she cried but luckily they did both ears at the same time. We got her little diamonds, and they look fabulous! Actually I should say that her dad got her diamonds. The lady at Claires listed off the price ranges of the ear rings from $17.99-$200 to which I quickly responded with, "which ones are the $17.99 ones?" I was going to go with the dull stars, but Vince said she should get diamonds. What a good daddy! Then we had dinner with my mom, dad and sis. On her birthday we took her to an indoor play gym, and was surprised when her "bestie" from school came. They were so cute!

What else happened this month? My husband got his GED! He got bored in school, and never felt the need to take the test, but finally decided to give it a try. He got an 80% overall, and is looking into engineering programs for night school. Life is glorious!

Love you all bunches!

Mama Wilcox

Sunday, July 14, 2013

32 and Better than Ever

I had my 32nd birthday on the 12th. My co-workers were kind enough to bring me my favorite doughnut and leave a happy birthday banner on my desk. My gifts were a Starbucks gift card for my chai tea lattes as I don't like coffee and a bag of chocolate mints from my mom. As I am getting older I feel that the best gift is the time of others. It was surprising how much it meant to me. Vince and the kids and I went out to lunch at a Japanese Seafood Buffet.

For dinner I asked my mom if we could go to her house and she could make us a family recipe of macaroni and tomato juice. My sister and her husband and baby came over, and we spend the evening talking until our husbands could not stand it anymore. My cell phone has been on the fritz for a couple of weeks, and I haven't gotten my new one, so instead of texting me my brother from Utah called to wish me happy birthday.

I heard a sermon today where the pastor talked about ho in our 20s we are learning and growing, in our 30s we are trying to find our purpose in life and in our 40s and up we are actually starting to live it. That is becoming true for myself, so it was nice to hear that I am not losing my mind. When I was in my 20s I would work a good job with benefits that I maybe didn't find personal fulfillment in with no problem. I think I had always viewed it as temporary. Now that I have gone back to work in my 30s after having 3 kids I am struggling a lot with what is my purpose with this? I sometimes feel as though I am not as dedicated and reliable as I used to be, or that motherhood and getting older ruined my drive. I think I need to give myself more credit, and acknowledge that it is normal, okay and acceptable for me to seek a life filled with passion even at work.

I just finished the book, "Leaving Microsoft to Change the World," by John Wood. John Wood was a successful Microsoft employee who quit his job to start creating schools in third world countries after an inspiring trip to Nepal. It was an inspiring example about how a dream can evolve into a full time reality. One of the points that he made is to not get too caught up in the details of planning otherwise it might overwhelm the reality of implementation.

I will end with a favorite quote.

"There is nothing with which every man is so afraid as getting to know how enormously much he is capable of doing and becoming." -Soren Kierkegaard

Things That My Kids Say During Lunch

This was part of my 2-6 year olds lunch conversation today. It is kind of like a rap song where you are jamming out to the beats and then stop in appallment when you realize what they are really saying. Instead I was getting frustrated at the constant bathroom talk until I realized how silly it was.

"I am sitting on my sandwich."

proceeded with...

"I ate my butt."

"You are poopy!"

"Big Belly" (My 2 year old about his stomach)

"I am sorry I make you old mom." (my son)

"You make yourself old." (my daughter)

"Momma I love ya."

"Love you too mom."

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Appreciate What Matters, and Ignore the Rest

The other day I found out that an old friend from my elementary days passed away suddenly at the age of 32 from a heart attack. It turns out that his main artery was 90% clogged. It is extremely sad, and my heart goes out to the family. It is a horrible tragedy that took such a young life who had so much to offer the world. It has been a reminder for me to focus my energy on what is important, and to not focus on negativity. Tonight for the first time ever I told a friend that I have had in my life for 25 years that I loved her. It is a phrase that I usually reserve for my kids, parents or husband, and so I found it hard to say. Isn't that silly? There are times when I feel like telling complete strangers, but I don't. Was I considerate of other co-workers and their opinions or did I bring others down to get where I needed to go? Did I make sure that I told my child I loved him and he is handsome or beautiful before rushing out the door? Am I content with where I am at even though I am always striving for more? Hug your dog, kiss your child, call your dad, appreciate, enjoy, care.

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Sparkler Safety Tips

Happy 4th of July everyone! It is a day that we celebrate the birth of our nation, and our freedom that was fought for by our forefathers, and protected by our veterans. I hope you all have an opportunity to spend time with friends and those you love with lots of barbeque and happiness. :)

A lot of people are going to be lighting off fireworks. It is a fun pastime in our house, though lately we tend to keep it to simple fountains and sparklers.

Believe it not though sparklers may be small and the mainstream child firework, they can still be dangerous. We found this out first hand tonight. My husband said that after years of doing stupid teenage fireworks that could of blown his hand off he never got hurt, but tonight severely burnt his hand while lighting 4 sparklers.
I wanted to refresh all of us parents on some common sense tips for sparkler safety:

1) Do not light the sparklers while holding them all together (Vince learned this firsthand....or soon to be no-hand lol)

2) Have the kids give at least 6 feet of space in between each other. (Per my pic above I did not follow this rule. Needed the reminder myself : )

3) It is preferable to light the sparkler while the child is holding it as opposed to handing them a lit one.

4) Make sure that the kids wear shoes

5) Do not hold a child who is holding a sparkler

6) Remain standing, and do not throw them

7) Have fun and take pictures

A lot of these seem simple, and they are but it just takes one time to ruin an entire holiday. Let's just say as much as I am sad for my hubby's hand I am glad it was his and not one of my kids.

Have a safe and happy Fourth. Enjoy!

Monday, July 1, 2013

OMG There is a Bat!

I know I just wrote, but seriously as I dried the ink on my keyboard I look up in the dark as we are watching tv and see a freaking bat in my living room. What the heck!? I just saw the shape of the wings, and knew that a bird wouldn't be out at this time of night. My husband next to me had no idea. I instantly threw the blanket over my head huddled next to him, and started saying, "Vincent! Vincent! You had better take care of this!" I was afraid the thing was going hit me. All I could hear was Vince running the house laughing while trying to wave it out the door. Holy crap! He finally got it out. Phew!