It is a beautiful March day. The sun is out, the birds are singing, the kids are playing outside in between homework and I have corned beef simmering in the pot for St Patricks Day dinner. I love being a stay at home mom, but why is it that no matter if you stay home, work or in between most moms still wonder what it would be like on the other side?
I have been blessed to be both a working mom and a stay at home mom at different times as needs and circumstances change. I have loved doing both as both brings its own set of challenges and rewards Right now God has been gracious enough to bless me with my hearts desire to stay home. I also have been able to part homeschool my kids, which has been a blessing. Through all of this it has taken me great faith to trust God in the process. I find myself feeling spoiled or like I am not contributing to earn the house that accomodates us or the car that gets us around. My husband does not feel this way, and has been nothing be appreciative for my role and contribution right now. It is hard for me at times to compare the value of watching and directing the kids, helping with the family roofing business and helping maintain the flow of the house with earning prestige at a job that brings in a paycheck.
Being a stay at home mom has required me to constantly stay in communication with God about lifting up my value in Him and not a name on a business card, but it is hard. Instead of worrying about money and bills, giving it to God and asking Him to help me make sound financial decisions that will put my family in a good position and not in peril. Trusting God that no matter what, he will be with us. If we need to switch gears, He will help. If I need to wear another hat, He will direct me.
The funny thing is that my younger sister is now a single mother and has been doing such a good job keeping it all together herself. I am proud of her as she raises her son alone, secures a roof over their head, works a job, goes to college to earn her bachelors, and is now considering an internship with a social services program in addition. I called her super mom and said I would love to do some of that to which she said she thinks I am a super mom and she would love to do what I do. This is not the first time this conversation with a fellow mom has happened.
We are all moms whether working or staying at home. No position is better than the other because everyone is different and every situation is different, and there could come a time when roles have to be reversed. The key is that we all have to work with God, and give our trust to Him to lead us in faith no matter the circumstances. Life without Him is scary now that I have Him in my life. He gives me humility, gratitude and perspective no matter the situation.
Carry on moms!