Friday, February 21, 2020

17 Years

This morning as I sat with my morning prayer and scripture time I was thinking about how tomorrow is my husband’s birthday. That brought me back to thinking of our first date at an Applebee’s and how it was the night before his birthday. In actuality it was on a Friday just like today with his birthday on a Saturday. Same as 17 years ago. 

He had been trying to set up a first date for a bit over a week at that point. The dates never lined up those first ten days due to plans I had already made with a girlfriend and a trip to Idaho to see family. Finally we were able to meet on the 21st. After we both got off work he met me at my apartment and picked me up in his little Hyundai hatchback. It wasn’t a beauty, but it was reliable and could get around in the snow. Applebee’s it was. I was pretty nervous as we had been long time acquaintances through mutual friends for a long time. He was very handsome and quite the catch, but I never thought we’d ever align to connect as he had been a bit of a bad boy and I was a bit of a church girl awkward dork style. 

At dinner I remember debating if I should be dainty and order a salad, but I was really quite hungry so I ordered a steak I believe. Something with some meat. We had a good dinner with good conversation. I think the stars had aligned to bring us together best neither of us really understood why the connection and draw was taking place to have a meal. We weren’t each other’s types by far but we both had an intrigue in each other. He was a gentleman and paid, was respectful as ever and held the doors open for me. He said it was his 21st birthday the next day and his friends were hosting a party for him. We met through these parties and I knew how wild they could get. I also knew a 21st birthday for him would be an epic blowout. What did I do?  I decided to pass and let him enjoy the epic experience without my subpar awkward drinking we just had a first date type of energy. 

He was super excited to tell me he had moved into his own apartment and had it decorated. He wanted to know if I wanted to see it. Usually this means some sort of a move that doesn’t involve apartment oogling, but for some reason I went along because he just genuinely seemed pumped about his place. He was so proud he had worked hard to make it happen. We pulled in and he excitedly led me to the door. I walked in to find it tastefully and modern my decorated. Every item in its place. No second hand furniture in sight as each item was carefully chosen. I took the tour and we sat for a moment on the couch where we talked. No pressure. No ulterior motives. His friends began to text that they were almost in town from being on the road coming into his party for tomorrow.  They were going to crash at his place for the night. He drove me home with a cordial and sincere goodbye where I walked in and thought wow what just happened?  

The next evening I went to the store to buy a birthday card. What kind of a card do you give a guy after just a first date?  Nothing too crazy or insightful. I finally found one and drove to his house to drop it outside his door. When I walked up I could hear the raging party inside. It was his 21st. His best buds were there and they were having an epic memory. I was happy for him and dropped the card and went home. The next day he called me in a confusion. He said the card must have been brought in because it was found on his counter by him the next morning. He panicked because he thought maybe I had showed up and for some reason he didn’t see me. That’s the man I married. He hasn’t changed to this day with his care and love for others. 

Tomorrow 17 years later he is taking our boys to a football game while he drops his wife and daughter off at a cheer competition. After we are going to get dinner as a family. I am so thankful. 

Monday, February 17, 2020

what a few weekends

I take a few weekends off from writing and oh my I have a lot to catch up on. First off the weekends ago Caylee had a cheer competition in our area and her team took first place out of six teams. Literally it was a dream and a total surprise.  I thought she’d maybe make second since they have been having a few bumps. The announcer is hard to decipher and it turns out a caylee didn’t even know she won for quite a while. She didn’t even know they were calling her division because a lot of her teammates are also on other teams. When her teammates started jumping up and down she thought the other gyms team had won and was happy for them. Then her teammate handed her the medal and yelled we won first and that’s when it hit her. It was also the first time she’s won a championship jacket. That girl wore that all week long to school. 

Last Friday was Valentine’s Day. It was a Friday so all three boys he parties at their school. It was Logan’s last school class party as he is in junior high next year.  Very bittersweet. Owen has his last year of preschool and made out with quite a few valentines. Well caylee came running to my car after class saying she wanted unexpectedly to go to the valentines school social but she needed $4. I didn’t have any cash and so we went home. She was sad in the back seat and in succumbed. I raced home and back with her and the money and got to the school to drop her off. This extra trip was making me late to grab the boys from their pick up so I quickly sped off. About an hour later my husband and so hop in the car and start to head to her school along the 40 mph highway and as we are rounding our second corner we
See her marching along the road. I couldn’t believe it!  We pulled over and got her in the car. It turns out that since it’s a school function after the bell you can’t leave and return and so they wouldn’t let her in. With no cell phone of her own and feeling defeated she decided it was best to walk the four mile trek along the winding old highway in a pair of crocs and a cardigan. I can’t tell you how my heart felt all night after that realizing what had happened and how she could have been hit or stolen. My girl said she was scared but kept her head high and marched on. We all learned a lesson. More planning for a school function from her. Less hurry from me and if the function won’t let you in ask for a phone to call me. 

This last weekend was the last one sports free in quite awhile since caylee and I have cheer weekends and the boys start soccer. Saturday we loaded in the car and drove to Seattle to watch the first XFL game. How fun it was to spend the day together at the field cheering on the players. Sunday we loaded up with the same tank of gas and headed to the beach for the day. The rain cleared while we parked and we walked and found old Japanese bottles and buoys that had floated up on shore. 

I am grateful for my family and these moments. 

Monday, February 3, 2020

the day after Super Bowl

The super bowl was yesterday and I was lucky enough to take Vince and the kids to my parents house to watch it together. My mom had been hinting. We were secretly planning on going and then she came out right and asked me directly. Elana came over with Jackson and Jay. They are so cute and had fun playing as cousins. Jackson wasn’t so sure about Vince and I. It took the evening for him to come up and give us a fast hug or an ET finger. 

Friday both Caylee and Ian had birthday parties. Both were sleepovers but caylee had to come home that night on my rules and Ian had his first sleepover. Caylee said they had fish snacks and fish candies and chocolate milk. Ian got his hands on some Dr Pepper and a gaggle if sugary treats. Silly kid. He said he stayed up with his buddy until the sun came up. When I got him back he was tired but didn’t know it. He finally took a power 30 and then woke to head to Matthews laser tag party. 

When they were gone Logan and Owen had us playing Risk together while eating pizza and root beer floats. He had my back when I said I didn’t want to battle any guys in the game. He said that dad will be the crazy machine man in a war and I will be saying peace and love and praying. I love those kids.